What is actually going on?
We separate the story you have become used to telling from the things that are genuinely creating friction, avoidance, resentment or uncertainty.
Private coaching · Thame, Oxfordshire
Change the parts of life you’ve stopped talking about.
Immersive, one-to-one coaching for life direction, burnout, intimacy, confidence and relationships. Practical, candid and completely individual.
Individuals and couples welcome · In-person in Thame · Mobile consultations available
“More face time. More honesty. More room to work on what actually matters.”
Private 90-minute sessions with Tom, built around the person in front of him rather than a pre-written coaching formula.
The approach
Coaching built around real life, not labels.
Life rarely arrives as one tidy problem. Burnout affects confidence. Confidence affects relationships. Relationships affect intimacy. The work is designed to follow those connections rather than forcing you into a single box.
“Most people don’t come to me with a neat label for what’s wrong — and they don’t need to. We start with what feels off, stuck or missing, then work out what needs to change and how to actually change it.” Tom Charles
Notice what your body is telling you.
Thoughts are only part of the picture. We pay attention to tension, discomfort, shutdown and other physical cues that can reveal where something is unresolved or difficult to voice.
Get clearer about what you want.
Many people are much better at meeting expectations than identifying their own wants. Coaching creates a judgement-free space to understand desire, limits and what genuinely feels right for you.
Then learn how to say it.
Insight is useful only if it changes something. We work on the words, boundaries and conversations needed to turn private understanding into clearer choices and more authentic relationships.
What a session tends to feel like
Talk properlyEnough time to move beyond updates and surface-level answers.
Find the patternIdentify what keeps repeating, where it shows up and what may be maintaining it.
Test the edgesExplore the thoughts, wants or conversations that have previously felt difficult to approach.
Leave with movementFinish with something concrete to notice, practise, decide or do differently.
Tom’s approach
Unconventional where useful. Practical where it matters.
Tom blends somatic awareness, desire fluency and practical communication training with a deeply body-positive approach to personal coaching.
His style is immersive, patient and direct. Clients are given space to explore relationships, desires, confidence, emotional blocks and major life decisions without judgement or embarrassment.
The aim is not simply to understand what is happening intellectually. Tom helps clients notice how tension, shame, avoidance and emotional habits show up physically, and then translate that awareness into clearer choices, stronger boundaries and more honest communication.
90-minute sessionsLonger sessions create room to move beyond surface-level conversation.
Private Thame practiceIn-person coaching from a discreet home practice in Thame, Oxfordshire.
Mobile consultationsHome visits available across Thame and surrounding Oxfordshire / Buckinghamshire.
Individuals & couplesCouples can be seen together or supported individually.
Not sure where to start?
Take the Life Assessment.
A short, private two-minute questionnaire designed to identify where the greatest friction appears to be right now and whether coaching looks like a sensible fit.
Your personal Life Assessment
It takes around two minutes. At the end you’ll receive a high-level view of your strongest coaching themes and a suggested starting point.
Life direction and alignment
Burnout and capacity
Confidence and self-expression
Relationships, desire and intimacy
Private programmes
Choose the depth of support you need.
All coaching is delivered personally by Tom. Longer programmes reduce the per-session investment and are designed for sustained change rather than occasional advice.
Foundations
5 sessions
£795
£159 per 90-minute session
- Five private 90-minute sessions
- Ideal for a defined issue or period of change
- Personalised coaching throughout
Most popular
Transformation
15 sessions
£2,175
£145 per 90-minute session
- Fifteen private 90-minute sessions
- Designed for meaningful, sustained change
- Ideal for overlapping life, relationship or confidence goals
Deep Transformation
25 sessions
£3,375
£135 per 90-minute session
- Twenty-five private 90-minute sessions
- For deeper personal reinvention and long-term change
- Lowest per-session investment
2-hour private intensive — £295
For focused, ad-hoc coaching without committing to a programme.
Couples seen together
Joint 90-minute sessions with both partners present.
5 sessions — £1,035
15 sessions — £2,825
25 sessions — £4,395
Couples seen individually
Separate private sessions organised around the relationship as a whole.
5 sessions — £1,395
15 sessions — £3,795
25 sessions — £5,895
Couples coaching
Work together. Or separately.
Couples do not always need the same format. Some benefit most from shared sessions; others make more progress when each partner has private space to speak openly before the work is brought back to the relationship.
Together
Joint sessions focused on communication, intimacy, desire, boundaries and reconnecting.
Individually
Separate confidential coaching for each partner, coordinated around the wider relationship.
“Sometimes the most useful relationship conversation starts with having somewhere safe to work out what you actually want to say.”
Mobile coaching
Prefer to meet at home?
Mobile consultations are available across the surrounding area. Travel is priced separately depending on distance, with Thame-based consultations included as standard.
Free 20-minute consultation
See whether the fit feels right.
The introductory call is free, confidential and without obligation. Use it to explain what you are looking for, ask questions and decide whether Tom’s approach feels right for you.